The Reason Why Mr.X Failed in the SSB Interview 7 Times…

by Uday Kumar on August 27, 2012

Hi readers, recently I received a few mails from those who have given SSB earlier and have not been selected. They asked me various questions and one such question was from a B.Tech graduate from Delhi and he asked, “Sir do I still stand a chance after being screened out and conference out 7 times?”. I could feel the genuine dejection and depression he is facing now. He was in a state to give up all the ambitions and wish which he has nurtured right from his childhood. His consistent failure has made him to giveup. He lost all his confidence in him. Understanding his situation I replied to him,’YES, But only incase if you are ready to change yourself’. He didnot understand what I meant. I explained to him what he needs to do and where he has gone wrong.

I thought in the best interest of our readers I must share our conversation with all of you. Before I start let me make it clear. All of us want something bigger and greater in our life. Be it during our childhood days in school or our college days or in our adulthood or even in our oldage we want more. For eg; a student wants to score 90%, he is presently scoring 80%. Inorder to score 90% he needs to do something different. If he continues his same way of studying, same way of making notes, using same procedures to memorise and same time period for studies then I dont think he will be able to acheive what he wants.

In the same way if a business man wants his existing business to do better, he needs to workharder, needs to include more distributors, needs to find more customers, needs to do a research, needs to improve the quality of his product and basically needs to expand. This rule stands good for everyone. Including you and me.

I replied to the young man who had emailed me,” Son, if you have given 7 attempts and have not been selected in any of those it is because you have not changed yourself any single time. Everytime you visited you went with the same mindset, same principles, same thought process and finally as the same person”

I told him,”IF YOU WANT WHAT YOU NEVER HAD, YOU MUST DO WHAT YOU HAVE NEVER DONE“. I think my message was clear to him. He said that he has always prepared well every single time and every time he went for SSB, he was sure that he has prepared well. But due to badluck he could not get selected. Personally, if there is one thing I dont beleive it the word called LUCK. I told him the story of Abraham Lincoln which I would like to share here,

I am sure many of you must have seen the following explanation in the internet. But there is no harn in reading it once more. Please read it again. And don’t just read from your eyes, read it from your heart.

Probably the greatest example of persistence is Abraham Lincoln. Born into poverty, Lincoln was faced with defeat throughout his life. He lost eight elections, twice failed in business and suffered a nervous breakdown.

He could have quit many times – but he didn’t and because he didn’t quit, he became one of the greatest presidents in the history of the US.

Lincoln was a champion and he never gave up. Here is a sketch of Lincoln’s road to the White House:

  • 12 Feb 1809 – Born.
  • 1816 His family was forced out of their home. He had to work to support them.
  • 1818 His mother died.
  • 1831 Failed in business.
  • 1832 Ran for state legislature – lost.
  • l832 Also lost his job – wanted to go to law school but couldn’t get in.
  • 1833 Borrowed some money from a friend to begin a business and by the
  • end of the year he was bankrupt. He spent the next 17 years of his
  • life paying off this debt.
  • 1834 Ran for state legislature again – won.
  • 1835 Was engaged to be married, sweetheart died and his heart was broken.
  • 1836 Had a total nervous breakdown and was in bed for six months.
  • 1838 Sought to become speaker of the state legislature – defeated.
  • 1840 Sought to become elector – defeated.
  • 1843 Ran for Congress – lost.
  • 1846 Ran for Congress again – this time he won – went to Washington
  • and did a good job.
  • 1848 Ran for re-election to Congress – lost.
  • 1849 Sought the job of land officer in his home state – rejected.
  • 1854 Ran for Senate of the United States – lost.
  • 1856 Sought the Vice-Presidential nomination at his party’s national
  • convention – get less than 100 votes.
  • 1858 Ran for U.S. Senate again – again he lost.
  • 1860 Elected president of the United States.

The point to be noted here is that he was persistent. But what I want you to note here is that after every single time he has failed, he has switched over to something bigger. He didn’t go for the same old thing. After every defeat and every fall he fought back and elevated himself to the next level. So dear readers if you fail in your task or fail to achieve what you wanted then may be you must work more, work smart and work hard for the next time.

In our friend’s case, after every single failure he worked harder and worked more. But he did not work smarter. I told him the ways to work smarter.

I asked him if he had done any of the following after failing in so many SSBs.

  • Did you go for a SSB coaching institute after failing in somany attempts?
  • Did you make a note of every day activities and how you performed in each task during the SSB for future analysis?
  • Did you join any english speaking course ?(he said he was weak in this area)
  • Did you buy a Wren and Martin or any other English Grammar book? (he said his writing was bad)
  • Did you atleast buy my study materials from the blog?
  • Did you speak to someone who could give you some kind of insight about how to give the SSB tests?
  • Did you give a mock interview with your friends or anyone for that matter?
All his replies were in the negative with a big NO.
I asked him if he did not do any of this then what kind of preparation he was doing. I told him reading news papers and magazines alone will not help you clear the SSB. Finally our conversation ended and I could feel he was more confident and motivated. He is expecting his next SSB in October.
I wish him and all my dear readers all the best!

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sabjeet singh August 27, 2012 at 7:02 pm

o wow hats off to u sir………u have given the right encouraging feelings to Mr.X and the example of Abraham Lincoln is highly motivational…..thanks for sharing ur conversation with Mr. X…..

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sara August 27, 2012 at 7:39 pm

hello sir ,first of all a big thanks to you for this helpful blog to ssb aspirants. my son used to go through it for last two years. this year he finished his 12th and was called for ssb 10+2 entry for both navy and army. he passed nda1 also. this week he was recommended for 10+2 navy and presently under going medical. they said merit list will be out in dec only. sir my doubt is whether he should attend the ssb for army 10+2 sheduled on sep 19th and also the ssb for nda(not informed when) because i heard that if the name comes towards the last in meritlist its not necessary to get the admission in NA. also he has joined in an engg college recently. should he continue there till dec?
is it true that cadets from nda only reach upto very high ranks not the 10+2 cadets? sir eagerly waiting for your reply.

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uday August 27, 2012 at 8:51 pm

Sara, I would like to congratulate your son for getting recommended. Regarding whether he must go for the other 2 SSBs , I would 100% recommend him to go for the SSB. Because, every time a lot of candidates do not go the academy due to low merit. So I sincerely suggest that he must attend other 2 SSBs also. And regarding Ex-NDA making to higher ranks and others not making it, it is not always true!! If he does well in 10+2 Tech, he will make it to great positions and higher ranks in the technical fields..

Regards

abhinav August 27, 2012 at 7:49 pm

Sir,
My public dealing is very bad… i dont know to socialize, if i have quarrel or fight with someone .. it just haunts my whole conscience… i become afraid… even when i dont want to be like this …. eventually i do the same.. why so sir? what can i do to overcome this?

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naren August 28, 2012 at 2:17 am

respected sir,
i m narendra , a service candidate. i have faced ssb twice but both time i was screen out . it is my third chance , i have prepared well , my coy cdr and other officers have taken my interview many times and also have checked my TAT , WAT ,SRT . and say i m in right way if i will clear screen test , then chances r high . l have also taken couching and got same reply in previous time . presently my posting is in the un mission in congo and are managing time for self study. please sir give some advice to clear the screen test and ssb , i dont want leave this chance because it is difficult for a service candidate to get many chances and time for study

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Amit August 28, 2012 at 9:01 am

Sir, I am working on IT company and i want to join Indian army my age is 24 years am i eligible to join Indian army. What kind of scope Indian army provides for computer science graduate.

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shanny kumar August 28, 2012 at 9:02 pm

sir, thnks sir fr ur blog…it motivates me…i hv attended SSB twice…frst tym screen out….second tym conference out…i know whr i go wrong….i m surred dat..i overcome ma shortcomings…nd got recomended third tym…thnku sir……

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AMIT SHARMA August 28, 2012 at 11:43 pm

SIR
WHY IS IT NECESSERY TO BUY STUDY MATERIALS?I KNOW ABOUT ALL THE TESTS.
BUT WOULD THE STUDY MATERIAL CLEAR ALL MY DOUBTS LIKE :
IF WE SEE A BOY DROWNING THAN WHAT KIND OF STORY TO WRITE??

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sss September 4, 2012 at 2:31 pm

i want to reply that actually boy is not drowning,he is enjoying in water………understand the concept

sushant August 29, 2012 at 10:53 am

nice post sir keep posting this type of articles more, it is highly motivating. sir i also want to inform you that i never attended ssb earlier and i want to crack the ssb in my first attempt only and sir my communication skills are not very much bad. can i keep a hope to clear ssb .

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mahendra Singh August 29, 2012 at 11:11 pm

sir, i am appearing first time ssb for [pc SL gen service] could you give me certain ideas which will help in in cracking this in first attempt. date of ssb still awaited.

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Meenakshi Yadav August 30, 2012 at 3:17 pm

Respected Sir,

I want 2 knw wen dis EKT is conducted in AFSB…4 technical entry. M vry confused regardin dis coz sum say it happens n sum say nw evrythn s included in AFSB so ders no EKT…need ur precious guidance….kindly reply

Thnx

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sss September 4, 2012 at 2:34 pm

there is no future of EKT now………everything is depend on the AFCAT.go for AFCAT………
if am wrong then plese reply SSB aspirants

Meenakshi Yadav September 5, 2012 at 11:16 am

sss

so during ssb dey test r knowledge in science??????

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sss September 5, 2012 at 3:58 pm

no…test of afcat covers four major parts
english
quant
g.k
general ability
u will get the syllabus of afcat from the airforce site.
there is no link of technical with ssb
ssb is a matter of OLQ

Abhishek Upadhyay September 1, 2012 at 2:43 pm

I didn’t receive my call letter for pabt till now. if any one of you got your letter , then please tell me. You can tell me on “[email protected]” or comment on this page.
Thank you.

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mohit kashyap September 22, 2012 at 4:27 pm

sir i cleared my ssb for nda entry once but because of my low merit i didnt get the joining letter. I m going for another ssb for tes entry. The problem is that i have taken a drop this year and am preparing for engineering entrances. will this create a negative impact on the interviewing officer? And will it cause my rejection? if i go for ssb i will miss my classes here. So am taking a big risk. Sir please help..

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ashish September 26, 2012 at 1:16 pm

sir,i was screen out ,in my first attempt for ssb in UES entry ….but now i cleared my cds exam going ssb for navy in bhopal ….so please sir help what will be questions they gona ask …..what type of work i am going for navy as u said u must hav complete information of going ssb entry

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Ashutosh kumar December 4, 2012 at 8:15 pm

Hello Sir, thank you very much for your motivational support to all the defense aspirants. I got a ssb interview call for ssc(ele) jun 13 course, sir this is my first attempt, and thats why I am very nervous regarding the same, please help me out that how to prepare well to get sucess in the first attempt itself.

Thank you.

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Aman malik May 3, 2013 at 11:36 pm

Sir, I m recommended in navy tech 2013. There I learned that call letter is sent to all who are recommended becausevselection isvvery rare.
Is it right?
Also , tell about no. Of vacancies in navy tech,

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arun June 11, 2014 at 4:32 pm

Respected sir,u
my brother trying to join army,but he couldn’t well performance in ssb, because when he was born that time his one testicle were absent after that we admit him on a sugery ,now he told me that his one testicle too small, so during medical test his fear of rejection that totally affect for his performance, sir please send reply regarding this if u have any idea ,please ask ur colegue and reply,

. thanking you
. yours faithfully

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vipin October 31, 2014 at 7:35 pm

sir, what is the minimum and maximum age for applying in SSB for the graduate candidate??

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